Marriage is the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship. As someone said that there is no more friendly and charming relationship than a good marriage. Marriage should take place with the desire of both genders because it is not a 2 Day or 3 Day relation. Both genders have to stay connected till their last breadth but unfortunately our society don’t bother about the desires of a girl. We are living in 20th century but still in many places the acceptance of a woman doesn’t matter at all and if ever a girl wants to settle her life according to her own desire then even not her parents support her just because ‘Log kia kahain gai’ regardless of the fact that in Islam a Marriage without the consent of a bride is totally illegal.
In Islam it is Haram to force your child to marry whom you want, as a parent Infact it is a great sin but sadly many parents think that as we have raise our childrens with many hardships so we have a right to impose our decisions and desires on them. Many parents think that their childrens are their property. In our society often girls become the victim of forced marriages and those girls who take stand and do marriage according to their own desire are considered as ‘Characterless’.
There are number of examples which depicts that how parents had to suffer a lot just because of these forced marriages of their daughters. There was a girl who received a gold medal in Olympics for the very first time but she committed suicide because she became the victim of a forced marriage. Every 3 seconds a girl is forced into marriage. Millions of girls don’t have a choice.
It is another common issue in our society Both genders are affected by this but girls are disproportionately the most affected. Child marriage is basically a marriage of under 18 girls or boys. It’s an age where girl’s can’t handle themselves and society give them the responsibility of an entire family people often say that she will learn everything with the passage of time but they don’t understand that how her innocent childhood vanish in all these responsibilities. In Islam marrying an underage girl is cruel and criminal.
This is one of the major thing so far seen in Pakistan. In many places Girls who ever try to get married on their own desire are often killed by their father or brother or whenever she refuse to do forced marriage and people call it the name of ‘Honor killing’ In 2005 the average Honor killing in Pakistan was recorded approximately 10,000 per year and it mostly occurs when women refuse to do forced marriage or ask for a divorce.
Forced marriage is completely prohibited in Islam. There are many hadit which clearly defines that marriages without the consent of a girl is a sin and haram in Islam. The Holly Prophet (P.B.U.H) had advised a girl, on her complaint that her father had forced her to marry without her consent, That she had a choice either to accept or Invalidate the marriage. If a Muslim Father is Forcing daughter in to marraige, then he is going against the teaching of Islam and Indeed He have to answer Allah on a judgement day.
Forced marriage or child marraige is just a crime in the court of Law. There is a law named as FMPO (Forced marriage protection order) If a girl is being forced into a marriage even by her parents or other family members then she can apply for this order. There are also many other laws which gives justice to all victims of forced marriages.
Inspite of all these hadits and orders issued by our law still millions of girls become the victim of forced marriages, child marriages and honor killing. The question is
According to survey in Pakistan
How Long society will do this injustice with woman?? Now it's a time to give woman her rights. Those rights which are given by Islam According to Islam and according to Law woman has a right to do marriage according to her own desire and do whenever she is ready for it.